A confident person; I recently read that the mark of a confident person is not in being cocky or smug but in having a good self-image and believing you deserve the best. Whether we choose to admit it or not, we are not all confident. I am not implying we are shy or don’t know how to speak to people. I mean most of the time, we believe we do not deserve any better than what we have now. We are so used to just getting by that we get a little deflated along the way. You learn not to get too upset when things don’t go our way; we tamp down our emotions so things don’t hurt us as much as they could. The only problem is that in doing so, you shut down bits of yourself that you don’t want others to see, and if you keep it down long enough, you become afraid of what they might think if they do see it. Thus you lose a bit of yourself and with that, your self confidence.

One thing we might not realize is that while we lock down one part of our personalities, it is very possible we might, unintentionally, lock down on other parts of ourselves. It does not matter how much you accumulate, who you end up with romantically or professionally, where you work or where you live, you will never be truly content, much less happy. Without going any further down the dark wormhole that could lead to depression, let’s consider this. Most incidents of self abuse and self destruction come from not finding a balance within you. Being able to understand your emotions and better yet manage them is the first step. With the right help and guidance, you learn how to look within, understand why you feel a certain way and not mask it but handle it in a healthy way.

There is a weight that comes on me when I hear of a life lost through suicide or the sudden violent outburst of someone you though was a loved one; it’s like “what could push you so far as to get you to that point”, to hurt yourself or kill another person and how unfortunate that there was no way to help them pull through. In the Nigerian society, we live by the code of just power through. It’s time we gave a chance to feel more and manage our emotions better. It will make for a more content life and a more centered existence. Take a chance on discovering you, take a chance on being the real you.

For details on taking part in our training on understanding and manage your emotions and getting to understand who you are and building productive interpersonal relations, please contact us on any of the numbers (+234) 814 4040 474, (+234) 810 5379 848, (+234) 803 4747 120